Should I Get A Divorce?

If you’re questioning your relationship, don’t ignore it. This 2–3 minute quiz helps you assess where things really are and whether it’s time to take action.

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How much trust do you feel toward your partner right now?

I trust them

I want to trust them, but it’s been harder lately

Trust feels like something I have to convince myself of

I don’t trust them

Do you feel emotionally safe expressing difficult feelings with your partner?

Yes, I feel safe

Sometimes, depending on the situation

I want to feel safe, but being honest just creates more distance between us

I don’t feel safe being vulnerable with them

How respected do you feel by your partner in day-to-day interactions?

I feel respected and valued most of the time

I feel respected in some ways, but dismissed in others

I want to feel respected, but I often feel like my needs get overlooked

I don’t feel respected or heard in this relationship

How often do you feel appreciated or valued in this relationship?

Often

Sometimes, but I’m not always sure it’s genuine.

I want to feel valued, but most days I feel taken for granted

I don’t feel appreciated at all anymore

When you think about the past year, how would you describe the overall direction of the relationship?

Improving, we are growing together

Mostly unchanged, feels the same

It’s not getting better, even though I’ve tried

It’s been going downhill, and I don’t see it turning around

Do the same problems keep repeating without real change?

Rarely, we work through most things and move forward

Sometimes, we make progress, but not enough

I keep trying to fix things, but it never lasts

All the time, it feels like we are stuck in a loop

How supported do you feel by your partner during stressful or difficult times?

Well supported

Somewhat supported

I want to feel supported, but I mostly end up dealing with things on my own

I don’t feel supported at all

How fairly do you feel responsibilities (emotional, household, or otherwise) are shared?

Mostly fair

Somewhat fair, but I notice imbalances.

I carry more than my share, and it’s starting to weigh on me

It’s completely one-sided

After conflict, how well do you and your partner repair and reconnect?

We usually reconnect and resolve things well

Sometimes we do, but it depends on the issue

I try, but things often stay tense or unresolved

There’s no repair

How hopeful do you feel about this relationship improving in a meaningful way?

Very hopeful

Somewhat hopeful, but I’m not sure what’s possible

I’ve tried to stay hopeful, but it’s getting harder

I’ve lost hope that things will ever change

How open are you and your partner to seeking outside support (such as counseling) if needed?

Both open

One of us is open, the other is unsure or resistant

I’ve brought it up more than once, but nothing ever changes

Neither of us is open to help anymore

How emotionally connected do you feel to your partner right now?

Mostly connected and understood

Sometimes connected, but it comes and goes

The connection feels forced or one-sided most of the time

I feel disconnected and emotionally alone.

How satisfied are you with physical or romantic intimacy in your relationship?

Mostly satisfied

It’s okay, but I wish we were more connected

I feel disconnected, it’s not what I need it to be

There’s little or no intimacy, and I’ve stopped expecting it

When disagreements come up, what usually happens?

We usually work through them and move forward

We try to talk, but things get brushed aside or left unresolved

It turns into the same fight over and over, I do not feel heard

It either blows up or we avoid it completely

Do you feel you can be honest and open with your partner without fear of judgment or rejection?

Most of the time, yes

Sometimes yes, sometimes no

I try, but I mostly feel misunderstood or dismissed

Not at all

How aligned are you and your partner on major life priorities and values (such as money, lifestyle, or future plans)?

We’re mostly aligned

We’re aligned in some areas, not others

We struggle to stay aligned, and it leads to conflict or confusion

We’re no longer aligned

How satisfied are you with your ability to be yourself and pursue your own goals within this relationship?

Mostly satisfied

Sometimes satisfied, but I sometimes downplay parts of myself

I try to stay true to myself, but it feels like I have to shrink to keep the peace

I don’t feel like myself anymore

In general, how willing do you and your partner seem to be to acknowledge issues and work through them together?

We’re both generally open and willing

One of us is open and willing, the other is hesitant but trying

I’m open and willing, but I often feel like I’m doing it alone

Neither of us is open to dealing with issues

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