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18 FAQs About NC Divorce

If you are considering separation or divorce, you may not know where or how to start, or even if a divorce is the right answer for you. To help you navigate this unfamiliar (and sometimes overwhelming) landscape, here are the answers to 18 of the most frequently asked questions we receive from clients during their initial consults with us.

10 Tips to Avoid a Divorce

To go or to stay? If only divorce were such a simple solution. If you aren’t a partner of a toxic relationship, there may be hope just yet. These 10 tips will help you understand the areas where your relationship may be suffering and help guide you on how to work with your partner to improve your relationship.  Not ready to call it quits?  This free guide can help.


Although we do our best to tell it like it is, we can’t say the same for other lawyers. Before you move forward, make sure you get the facts. Lawyers are very good at talking outside your scope of knowledge. After all, they have studied the law and know lots of fancy, legal-sounding words. If you want to pick the right lawyer for you, start here with this free guide.


You’re smart. You know divorce is expensive. Maybe you don’t need a lawyer after all? Before you go forward with any separation or divorce, check out the common mistakes we’ve seen some incredibly smart folks make in their own divorce. This free guide can save you lots of time and headaches!

Dating During Separation

Legally, you can date during separation in North Carolina, but are you ready to date? Here are 10 tips we have put together in our 20+ years of being family lawyers to help you know if you are ready.

How to Deal with Assholes

Everyone has a bad day so I am not talking about temporary jerks or situational jerks. I’m talking about the real jerks, the people with no self-awareness and only enough emotional intelligence to use it to poke, prod or get what they want out of you for their benefit and entertainment. Know any persistent jerks like that in your life?

How To Have A Successful Mediation

The most successful meditations we have been a part of have been the ones in which the clients and the attorneys were the most prepared. In many of the cases which have not resolved in mediation clients too often do not appear to have been prepared to the process.

Negotiation Tips

If I had a thousand dollars for every time I’ve heard this in a mediation, I would be the proud owner of some Apple Stock right now. For context, I serve as a mediator in divorce cases about 2 or 3 times a month and have done so for over 14 years. I’ve been a divorce lawyer representing people in mediation and in litigation for over 20 years now.

Parenting Coordinator

If you are having difficulty making joint decisions about your children, a Parenting Coordinator may be able to help your family. Having a custody order does not always stop conflict between the parents. And while it pains us as lawyers to say this, sometimes custody orders are vague or have conflicting provisions.


The truth is you have an agreement whether you put one in writing or not. If you and your significant other do not create and tailor your own agreement to your specific situation, then you have an agreement that the laws of North Carolina will decide your division of assets upon death and divorce and those same laws will determine how much, if any, alimony you pay or receive.

Premartial Agreement Guide

Here are some reasons why you should have a premarital agreement:
Clarify finances and financial strategy, Protection from debts of the other, Avoid arguments over property debt and spousal support in case of divorce, Preserve separate property for children from prior marriages.

Children’s Bill of Rights

The right to love and be loved by both of your parents without feeling guilt or disapproval. The right to be protected from your parent’s anger with each other. The right to be kept out of the middle of your parents’ conflict, including the right not to pick sides, carry messages, or heal complaints.


It is ironic that we call processes that humans have been using for thousands of years “alternative.” Long before there were lawyers and courts, there were methods of resolving disputes such as mediating with a wise member of the village, allowing an elder to decide the solution, bouncing ideas off others not involved with the problem, or sitting down over some saber-tooth tiger steaks and working out your differences.