Creating a custody arrangement is perhaps the most difficult aspect of divorcing when you have children. Your kids are the most important people in your life. Now that your marriage is ending, they become the center of attention when it comes to decisions about their well-being and future.
It can be very challenging to set your feelings toward your spouse to the side and prioritize making informed decisions on your children’s behalf, but it’s necessary. While divorce is hard for you and your spouse, it’s just as difficult, if not more so, for your children whose lives are changing.
At Triangle Smart Divorce, we put your children’s best interests at the forefront of all that we do, and strive to lessen the impact that divorce and custody matters can have on their day-to-day lives. If you need help creating a custody arrangement, call Triangle Smart Divorce today to request a consultation with one of our Southern Pines custody lawyers and learn about your options.
How Does Custody Work in North Carolina?
In North Carolina, there are two types of custody: legal and physical. Legal custody refers to which parent has the right to make major life decisions on behalf of your children when it comes to their health care, education, and religion.
North Carolina family courts typically favor arrangements where both parents make these important decisions together. However, there are situations where a judge might grant sole legal custody, such as if one parent lives far away, is abusive, neglectful, or not a part of the children’s lives. In a sole legal custody situation, the other parent’s consent is not needed to make any major decisions.
Physical custody has to do with which parent the children reside with the majority of the time. Like legal custody, the courts prefer shared physical custody. However, it’s important to note that even in a joint physical custody arrangement, the children’s time won’t necessarily be split 50-50 between two households.
Mediation
Mediation is a process we prefer and highly recommend at Triangle Smart Divorce. It’s a collaborative divorce process where you and your co-parent can work together to set the terms of your custody arrangement, ultimately allowing you to retain the most control over your children’s future and eliminate the need for a judge (who doesn’t know you or the kids) to have the final say. Mediation is also generally a faster and more cost-effective process for custody negotiations.
High-Conflict Custody
We understand that mediation isn’t possible for every couple. Some have unstable relationships with their co-parent, and often the other parent is intent on being spiteful and making divorce and custody matters as difficult as possible. If you married a narcissist who wants to use your children as a weapon against you, or if they are simply unwilling to compromise on the terms of custody, we can help.
Why it’s Important to Work With One of Our Southern Pines Custody Lawyers
We know how important family is and how overwhelming it can be when it feels like yours is splitting up. At Triangle Smart Divorce, our Southern Pines custody lawyers can ease the emotional impacts of custody while working on a plan that honors your wishes for your children.
If you need assistance with creating a custody arrangement, we can guide you through each step, protect your parental rights, and advocate for the best possible future for your children. You can rest assured that we will prioritize what’s best for your family over everything else. Call Triangle Smart Divorce now to request a consultation and learn about what’s next.
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There aren’t enough words to express what Ashley Fillippeli and her team have done for me… With calm focus, sharp legal skill, and an extraordinary amount of heart, Ashley helped me find my child… That moment would not have happened without Ashley, and my child would not have a father without her help.
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Triangle Smart Divorce is the best family law firm in the area, and I am so grateful to have had them on my side. Lisa, Diane, Lauren, Jessica and the whole TSD team were very knowledgeable, thorough and professional. They did an excellent job getting great results for me and my kids during very challenging circumstances.
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Lauren did an excellent job representing me throughout this entire process. From start to finish, I felt confident trusting her guidance and decisions, and I always knew I was in capable hands. She was professional, knowledgeable, and supportive every step of the way. I would highly recommend Lauren and this law firm to anyone going through a custody battle.
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Frequently Asked Questions
A divorce lawyer may seem like an extra expense if both parties agree on the big decisions, but the details of a divorce can be complex and hard to navigate without an expert, and getting the agreement properly written ensures that everyone has the security and clarity they need to move forward with their lives. It’s better to do it right the first time than have to keep going back and fixing mistakes. And, in some cases, you may not be able to fix your mistakes.
You should ask a potential divorce lawyer about their prior experience with cases like yours, their approach to negotiations when couples reach a disagreement, and their personal success rate in arriving at a resolution through negotiation and/or mediation.
You cannot have one lawyer serve both parties in a divorce. This would be a conflict of interest. It’s incredibly important that each party feels their individual needs are represented and voiced, and that cannot be done with a single lawyer serving as the representative for both parties.

